Another school year, another kid enters big school

I can't believe summer is officially over for us and it's now the start of another year in the big school. My son is entering Grade 1 while my daughter is now in Grade 2.

The Tooth Fairy's 1st visit to our house!

Last night my 7 year old daughter finally lost her first tooth! What a milestone!

JOHNSON’S Bedtime launches new Baby Sleep App

When it comes to raising a baby, a mother’s priority has always been about ensuring their health and development. For working moms especially, the ultimate challenge is getting the right amount of sleep for both her and her baby.

What with busy schedules and always being on-the-go, pioneer in the science of baby development, JOHNSON’S®, has developed a new mobile application perfect for all working parents. Featuring a set of proprietary and customized tools, the app is designed to be the ultimate sleep expert-partner for parents.

The importance of a bedtime routine from Johnson's Baby

Mothers all around the world share a similar challenge: getting their babies to sleep and stay sleeping. Studies indicate that 20-30 percent of babies experience sleep problems, including difficulty in falling asleep and sleeping through the night. This does not only cause problems for mothers, but also impacts the healthy development of their babies.

Starting big school... and learning to let go

It's the first week of school for many students, but for most parents like me, it's also the start of BIG SCHOOL or Grade 1. I just want to share my thoughts and feelings while they're still fresh since I'm sure in a few weeks or even months, I'll be laughing at how dramatic I was!

This was her first day of PRESCHOOL, 3 years ago.

Other uses for breastmilk storage bags

If you're a nursing / pumping mom, you definitely know that you shouldn't reuse your milk storage bags. However, I find it such a waste to throw them away especially if you paid good money for them. And I figured, these bags are more durable than the regular Ziploc bags since they're made to keep our precious milk safe. So they're thicker, leak-proof and even have a double zipper seal.

Anyway, after I've used a milk storage bag, I make sure to wash it thoroughly and check if there are any leaks. When they're all dried up, here are some ways I reuse them:

For toiletries
Who here has carefully packed their toiletry kit then found it all wet after a shampoo or lotion bottle leaked? I found that milk storage bags are perfect for travel sized containers. I pop about 2 bottles in each storage bag, then put everything in my toiletry case. It keeps things more organized, plus no more worrying about my luggage getting wet!

Our yaya has also used these bags to put powder detergent (if you want to bring some when traveling).

Storage for travel
Basically you can use these bags for storing and organizing anything when you travel, just like you would in a normal Ziploc bag. I've used these for bringing medicine tablets:

As well as my daughter's hair ties, clips, and ribbons. I've also used these for my jewelry too.

Waterproof phone case
Milk storage bags are the perfect size for a cellphone when you go to the pool or the beach! So no need to buy those special water resistant casings for your phone. And since milk storage bags are leak-proof, you can be sure that they'll keep the water out. My hubby uses this whenever he works out or trains for triathlon. He can check his phone even if he's sweating buckets or right after a swim. It can also work with your digital camera if it's small enough too.

Wallet
My hubby also uses this for his money when he works out. Of course you don't want to bring your whole wallet if you're going for a run or a bike ride. You can just stuff the storage bag with your cash in your pocket and again, it's waterproof.

So if you're a nursing mom like me who hates throwing anything away, I hope these were useful ideas for recycling your storage bags. Or maybe you're done with breastfeeding and have unused milk bags you don't know what to do with. At least you can use these first before buying new Ziploc bags right? ;p

Continuing Breastfeeding

I'm proud to say that I've been nursing Skyler exclusively for a full year now! Like I mentioned before, I definitely experienced my own share of challenges and difficulties with breastfeeding especially with my first 2 kids (read about my breastfeeding journey HERE). It is only with Skyler that I've been able to nurse for this long and without having to mix feed with formula.

Nursing at The Boutique BnB in Tagaytay. And I love this chair, very apt don't you think? ;p

I'm so happy that he has developed a big appetite and fondness for all types of food. Because of this, he doesn't nurse as often anymore during the day. Sometimes, he even doesn't drink the expressed milk I leave behind when I go out for as long as 6 hours. Also, I noticed that he doesn't like feeding when we're out since he gets so distracted with his surroundings. During his 1st birthday party, he didn't nurse the whole time since he was probably so excited!

But at night, that's when he nurses practically the whole time. He sleeps early (about 8pm) and doesn't wake up until about 6-7am (parang alarm clock). He would cry for a bit at times and toss and turn, but then he'd just need my breast to fall asleep again. I'm his human pacifier! Sometimes when I'm facing the other way from him in the bed, I'll suddenly feel him tap on my shoulder as if to say "Mommy, wake up! I'm hungry!" But the good thing is I don't have to get up anymore to sit down like when he was younger. Now, all I do is just lift my shirt while lying down and he'll know what to do haha! Which means more sleep for mommy as well. And I love how we're in a hugging position when he feeds at night. Makes me sad to think when he's bigger na and I have to wean him already. :(

He also now loves to tug at my shirt, either lifting it up or pulling at the collar. And then he says "mim" (milk). But what's funny is he does this to his yaya or his lola too! And they get so scandalized especially when we're out in public haha! And sometimes when I'm at bed but working on the computer or just watching TV, he'll just crawl over, lift my shirt, and start feeding on his own lol!

Anyway, here are some questions I usually get about breastfeeding these days:

Doesn't it hurt especially since he has teeth now?
Him breastfeeding with teeth doesn't hurt at all. What hurts is when he intentionally bites me (I guess he gets gigil sometimes?). I've been bitten quite a few times and I couldn't help but shout in surprise. This makes Sky cry since he seems to know he did something wrong. I don't know if me telling him not to do it again worked, since he hasn't bitten me for quite some time now. But he has bitten me and other members of the family in different body parts hehe! ;p

Your baby probably never gets sick since he's exclusively breastfeed.
I don't know why, but Skyler was the one who got sick most of the time compared to his older sister and brother who were formula fed at the same age. I was confused too since I know that breastfeeding should provide him with antibodies and make him less prone to sickness. But I guess you really can't help the virus from spreading in the house especially with kids. Whenever Miley or Sabe would get colds, Sky would get it too. Probably because they can't stop hugging and kissing him! So I guess breastfeeding exclusively is not a guarantee that your baby won't get sick at all. What I think helps is that he's able to bounce back quickly from it. :)

Why don't you use a breastfeeding cover when nursing in public?
I only used a nursing cover for the first few months. But after a while, both me and Skyler found it constricting. He would refuse to feed from under it and would keep trying to take it off. I guess he just likes to see his surroundings and me clearly. And it's just easier feeding him at once without having to take out the cover from my bag and then putting it on. I also don't own any nursing tops or dresses, I just usually wear something loose that I can lift up without exposing my back or too much skin. I admit, I myself got uncomfortable whenever I would see breastfeeding women in public before I had my own kids. But now, I don't care where and when I have to nurse. I'll do it literally anywhere haha! But I make sure that I am always discreet. And I really prefer this because I find it's less obvious when I'm nursing without a cover. With a cover, people know that you're really breastfeeding. But without one, it just looks like I'm holding a sleeping child. :)

Until when do you plan on breastfeeding?
I hope to be able to do it until he turns 2 years old. But I now know the feeling of wanting to breastfeed forever, it's kinda addicting haha!

I remember the first few weeks of nursing, of having to remind myself to take it one day at a time. Then suddenly it was 6 months already and now a year. I know eventually we'll have to start weaning, but for now, I'm enjoying every single minute of precious bonding time with my baby. :)

MMC’s Pregnancy & Beyond 2014

Before you pack your bag for the hospital, be sure you are acquainted with this new and important job of being parents!

Discover the basics of nursing and caring for your baby in MakatiMed’s Pregnancy & Beyond 2014 lecture series. Be a breastfeeding pro and learn proper infant care techniques and child development. All these on November 22, 2014 (Saturday) at 10:00AM to 1:00PM at the Auditorium, 8^th Floor Tower 2, Makati Medical Center.

For inquiries, contact 8888.999 local 3756.

Happy Father's Day!

To the man of the house, Happy Father's Day! My gift to you is you get to take care of all 3 kids for the whole day! I know how much you'll like that hehe! ;p

But seriously, I'd like to say thank you for being the most wonderful dad to our children. And not just for providing them with everything they want and need, but for always being there for them.

Again, Happy Father's Day to all the dads (and also single moms) out there! Enjoy your day today! :)

3 months of Skyler

Wow, time sure flies! I still remember like it was just yesterday when I was counting down the days until I was about to give birth. And then Skyler finally came out, and I was facing the new challenges of being a mom again. I remember the first few nights in the hospital, the anxiety of being at home with the new baby for the first time, lots of thoughts about how Miley and Sabe will react to their new brother, breastfeeding issues, and the sleepless nights! Even though this is baby #3 already, it still wasn't as easy as you would think.

Breastfeeding wasn't easy at first (I remember being so engorged and the awful pain when Skyler would latch on during the early days), I had hardly slept for more than 2 straight hours and was basically a walking zombie, and I was feeling so guilty about not being able to spend quality time with my 2 other kids who I know needed their mom too. It was definitely overwhelming and I remember looking down at Skyler's little face and tiny hands and thinking "I'm sure in a few months it would all be very different..."

And it sure is!

Skyler just turned 3 months old and is already showing signs of his adorable personality. I love this age when he is starting to interact with us already, with lots of eye contact and smiles. He loves it when I talk to him, even just me saying his name over and over! Singing also helps calm him down when he's fussy or agitated. He's also stronger now, being able to lift his head during tummy time. He's also so siksik and heavy already that my arms are given a workout every time I carry him (which is basically all the time lol!).

one of the first smiles I ever captured

Miley and Sabe are now also used to their baby brother, although they react to him very differently. Miley adores Skyler with all her heart and really is so protective and loving towards him. She always wants to see his face and keeps asking about him. She gets so gigil with him too! Sabe, on the other hand, is an entirely different story. He acknowledges Skyler but doesn't want to be near him... There's still a bit of jealousy going on especially if he sees we're paying more attention to the baby than him. That's why he constantly hug and tell him we love him so that it doesn't develop into a middle-child syndrome. I hope he grows out of it soon though and that they grow up to be best friends. :)

Also one of the best developments is that that breastfeeding doesn't hurt anymore and I am now also able to pump and store milk! And I love it when I feed Skyler and he's just looking up at me with those adorable eyes. Makes all the previous pain so worth it. :)

what a happy, smiley baby!

fist bump

Skyler also loves taking a bath, especially since it's sooo hot these days! He gets so sweaty easily and then super lagkit! You can tell he feels so refreshed after every bath time since he's so calm and happy, and then usually falls asleep.

Don't get me wrong, it will still probably be a while before I get a good night's rest since he still doesn't sleep through most of the night. He'll probably sleep about 2-3 hours straight (4 at the most), but usually he likes it when he's in my arms (ayaw magpababa!). So I have a lot of back pain and stiff neck from nursing and then falling asleep in a sitting down position. We've tried letting him cry it out when he wanted to be carried but I guess we're just too soft-hearted and can't stand seeing his pouty face (super kawawa!). And like most babies, he reserves his long naps in the morning or in the late afternoon... And then wakes up and starts to get fussy right when me and hubby feel sleepy already haha!

oooh, look he has dimples!

He also got sick a few weeks ago, because both Miley and Sabe had colds too. I was so confident that he would be fine since we were exclusively breastfeeding, but he got vaccinated at around the same time so I guess his immune system got weak. You can just imagine how stressed out we all were with 3 sick kids! I was so confused and worried because I kept reading how you shouldn't give months-old babies any medicine yet. So all I did was use saline nasal drops and then suctioning the nose for a whole week. He wasn't getting better and it was torture hearing his sipon and cough get worse. But he never lost his appetite or got matamlay. His colds was just very bothersome when he was feeding since he couldn't breathe properly. Finally, our pedia reassured us that giving medicine would only help him get well. He had colds for about 2 weeks already so not giving him any might only make things worse since it could lead to further complications. So I finally gave in and with lots of prayers, Skyler finally got better after a few days and has been happy and healthy since then. Thank you Lord!

my little man

I'm just so thankful for our 3 children and can't wait for all the surprises and new things to be discovered about them everyday.

Skyler update

It's so hard to find time to do things nowadays since I feel like I'm permanently attached to Skyler almost 24/7. Breastfeeding is serious business and this little baby seems to be hungry almost every hour! Which also means lots of changing dirty diapers too hehe. I can't count the number of times I've changed him and just when I've laid him down with his fresh diaper, I hear him pooping all over again! ;p

Like with all my kids, he chooses to take long naps during the day and is awake at night. I try to sleep when he's asleep in the afternoon, but sometimes it's hard to do since that's the only time I can do other things. Hubby also deserves a shout-out for being so great around the house as well - doing the grocery, taking the kids to school/playdates, etc. Now only if he could breastfeed too right? lol!

I'm so happy to say that Miley is completely in love with her new brother! She's always kissing him and asking if she can take care of him (which means to put him in her lap). There's a little sibling rivalry going on with Sabe though, just as we expected. Like when I'm carrying Skyler, he'll get mad and ask me to put him down on the crib and play with him instead. Awwww...

Anyway, here are some pics of Skyler adjusting to his new role as baby brother. :)

Repost: 28 Rules For Fathers Of Sons

I'm sure most of you have already read or seen this article that's made its way around social media. But if you're like me who just read it for the first time, then allow me to share it here again since I absolutely loved it and couldn't help but tear up after getting to the end. :)

28 RULES FOR FATHERS OF SONS

1. Love his Mother. He will learn to love like you love, and hate like you hate. So choose love for both of you. Devote yourself to it. Love with your whole heart and express that love each and every day. Then, someday down the road, you will see the way he loves his own wife, and know that you played a part in that.

2. Let him drive. Every child remembers the first time they drove on daddy’s lap. For that one moment, he will believe that he is just. like. you.

3. Teach him to be picky. Especially when it comes to women and burgers. Teach him to never settle.

4. Take him to a ball game. There is something about sharing a day of hot dogs, sunshine and baseball with your father.

5. Love with Bravery. Boys have this preconceived notion that they have to be tough. When he is young, he will express his love fully and innocently. As he grows, he will hide his feelings and wipe off kisses. Teach him to be a man who rubs them in instead. It takes courage for a man to show love: teach him to be courageous.

6. Talk about sex. Sometimes, boys need to know that all men are created equal.

7. Teach him to be a man’s man. Show him how to be brave and tough around the guys. Then, remind him on the ride home that it is okay to cry.

8. Share secrets together. Communicate. Talk. Talk about anything. Let him tell you about girls, friends, school. Listen. Ask questions. Share dreams, hopes, concerns. He is not only your son, you are not only his father. Be his friend too.

9. Teach him manners. Because sometimes you have to be his father, not just his friend. The world is a happier place when made up of polite words and smiles.

10. Teach him when to stand-up and when to walk away. He should know that he doesn’t have to throw punches to prove he is right. He may not always be right. Make sure he knows how to demand respect- he is worthy of it. It does not mean he has to fight back with fists or words, because sometimes you say more with silence.

11. Teach him to choose his battles. Make sure he knows which battles are worth fighting- like for family or his favorite baseball team. Remind him that people can be mean and nasty because of jealousy, or other personal reasons. Help him to understand when to shut his mouth and walk-away. Teach him to be the bigger better person.

12. Let him dance in tighty whiteys. Dance alongside him in yours. Teach him that there are moments when it is okay to be absolutely ridiculous.

13. Share music. Introduce him to the classics and learn the words to the not-so-classics. Create a rock band with wooden instruments, share your earphones, and blast Pink Floyd in the car. Create a soundtrack to your lives together.

14. Let him win. Sometimes he needs to know that big things are possible.

15. Teach him about family. Let him know family is always worth fighting for. Family is always worth standing up for. At the end of the day, he has you to fall back on, and pray to God that you will have him.

16. Father him. Being a father—to him—is undoubtedly one of your greatest accomplishments. Share with him the joys of fatherhood, so one day he will want to be a father too. Remind him over and over again with words and kisses that no one will ever love him like you love him.

17. Listen to him now. If you don’t listen to the little things now, he won’t share the big things later.

18. Let him try on your shoes. Even if they are old and smelly. Let him slip his little feet in and watch him as he hopes like hell that someday he can fill them. He will fill them.

19. Give him bear hugs. The kind that squeezes his insides and make him giggle. The kind of hug only a daddy can give.

20. Give him baths. Because Mom can’t do everything damnit.

21. Teach him how to pee standing up. Let him pee outside- such is the joy of being a man. Mom cannot teach this talent, so someone has to.

22. Know the answers. He will assume you do. If you don’t know them, pretend you do and look them up later.

23. Toss him around. Because little boys love seeing the strength of their father. Throw him up in the air, so that he knows you will always be there to catch him on his way down.

24. Ask his mother. He will come to you with questions that he won’t always want to ask his mother, about girls and about love. Ask her anyway, she will know the answers.

25. Love him like you would love a daughter. Little girls are not the only ones who need hugs and kisses. Love is the color yellow of emotions. It is both happy and gender neutral.

26. Grow a big belly. Because every child should get the chance to rest their head on the absolute softest pillow ever. Daddy’s belly is the best place to land.

27. Don’t say, do. American inventor Charles F. Kettering once said, “every father should remember that one day his son will follow his example instead of his advice.” Be a good one.

28. Be his hero. You are anyway. To him, you have the strength of Batman, the speed of Spiderman and the brain of Ironman. Don’t disappoint. Prove to him that Daddy’s are the biggest heroes of all. Only Daddy’s can save the day.

my boys. my loves.

Source: http://www.viralnova.com/rules-for-fathers-of-sons/

Update on Miley's schooling

First, the good. Miley has been adjusting really well in school. We can see that she's really enjoying herself because whenever we bring her inside the school grounds, she runs inside her classroom and starts playing with the other kids. Her vocabulary has also increased and improved. Sometimes, we'll hear her saying words that we didn't even know she knew! And she's also starting to learn how to write some letters and draw shapes. :)

But then, there's also the bad. About 3 weeks into school, I picked up Miley on a Monday and was told by one of the aides that she was still inside because her teacher was talking to her. I asked if anything was wrong and the aide said to just wait for the teacher. My heart started beating a little faster. My gosh, wala pang 1 month kakausapin na ako ng teacher! Well, to make the long story short, Miley would apparently hug her classmates and not let go, so then they would fall to the floor. Basically, she was the one who started this "game" so all the other kids started hugging each other too and they ended up all rolling on the floor. Then there was a also a little shouting and not listening situation. Well, the thing was, the teacher was not Miley's regular teacher (who was on leave that day) so we figured maybe Miley just wasn't used to this new person in the classroom. But anyway, the resolution was to just talk to Miley about it.

On Wednesday, I wasn't feeling well so hubby picked up Miley from school. Well, Miley's regular teacher was back and she requested to talk to hubby too! The issue this time was that Miley had a schoolmate (different section) who she found super cute. Actually, I saw the little girl before na and cute naman talaga She was very small and chubby and I guess Miley saw her as a doll or "baby sister". Miley would apparently get "gigil" with the girl and sometimes pinch and run after her. The little girl became afraid of Miley tuloy and the parents were scared baka matrauma na to go to school. Also, Miley was still doing her "hugging game" which would really disrupt class. She also didn't finish her seatwork that day and started running holding a pencil. Of course, the teacher ran after her too and took the pencil away. Miley started crying and said "I want my Mommy! I'll only listen to my Mommy!"

Ayayay! You see, when I was a kid, my mom never had any problems with me in school. Even in preschool, I was always a star student (not to brag or anything ;p). I guess I kind of expected it to be the same for me, that's why I was really affected when barely a month into school and we're getting this kind of feedback. Promise, I couldn't sleep sa sobrang affected!

Hubby and I talked to Miley about it but I was really confused as to how to address the situation. Miley kasi loves kids and playing with other children. She's also very affectionate since we hug and kiss her all the time and we encourage her to be the same with her brother. Now tuloy, we're telling her not to hug her classmates - only Sabe, mom, dad (and family). We also tell her not to pinch or run after anyone, and to be more specific, to just stay away from the little girl for now. Pero baka naman we're restricting her from making new friends? Haaay it's so hard to be a parent sometimes...

Anyway, we talked again to the teacher a couple of days after to check on Miley's behavior and according to her, there was a big improvement already. YEY! *big sigh of relief!*

Now just last Thursday, I picked Miley up from school. I was just in the car (in major pambahay no less) waiting for yaya to get her, when the teacher came outside to talk to me. She said there was an accident a while ago and someone got bitten. My first thought was that Miley bit someone! But apparently it was the other way around. Here's the accident report slip I was given:

It was during playtime when all the kids (even those from other sections) play together. Miley hugged Javi (a boy from another section) and I guess Javi didn't like to be hugged or he found it too tight. So he bit her. Of course Miley cried (a LOT) and they placed cold compress on her arm. Here's a picture I took 3 days after, and you can see the bruise is still showing... my poor baby!

Hubby was more upset than me and wanted to talk to the directress of the school on the phone just to check how the situation was handled. According to the school, they were able to separate the kids naman at once and also to talk to the boy and his parents as well. Also, they would keep a watchful eye on Miley and the boy in the coming days to make sure it doesn't happen again.

Good thing Miley is very resilient and she's used to getting bitten by her brother (naku, baka next year si Sabe naman ang may issue with biting someone lol!) so I don't think that experience will traumatize her. In fact, it was as if nothing happened the next day when we brought her to school, she was still excited as ever to play with her classmates. I just hope we don't have any more issues or accidents anytime soon... my gosh kakastart pa lang ng schoolyear diba!

Sorry if this post is really long and bordering on rambling... I just get very emotional sometimes thinking how my baby is in school and I have to trust the teachers/faculty to look after her while we're not there. I just wish that we could be with the kids ALL the time to see what and how they're doing, but of course that's impossible. I just always pray that my kids will be kept safe and away from harm during the times that they're not with me. And to think this is just nursery! I'm sure it will get more challenging when they get older. Don't you wish sometimes that your kids can stay babies forever? Haaaay...

Well, I really hope that I won't have to blog about any bad incident again regarding Miley in school. Hopefully, it will all go uphill from here. Wish us luck! :)

The Terrible Twos: The 2nd time around

This picture represents how my 2 year old son Sabe acts mostly these days - moody, demanding, stubborn... a walking temper tantrum. It definitely sounds and feels familiar to us. My daughter Miley was exactly this way a year ago when she was going through her own terrible two phase.

He's become the little boss around the house, making sure he gets his way otherwise all hell breaks loose! What's frustrating is that sometimes, we can't understand what he wants since he can't fully communicate yet what he wants. So he's there trying to tell us something and we're trying our hardest to figure out what it is. And when we can't give it at once, he starts screaming and crying at the top of his lungs. But he sure loves saying "NO" and "AYAW". ;p

He's become the little drama king too! I swear, he can fake cry like a pro! He begins to pout, then his mouth starts quivering, and tears start to fall... and once he's got you in his trap and you finally give in, his mood changes in an instant and he gives you the naughtiest look! ;p haaaaay!

Actually, it's really not so bad this time since we've already gone through this with Miley so we already know what to expect. Besides even with all the kicking and screaming, just one smile and a kiss makes everything ok. :)

Good Read: The Important Thing About Yelling

Oh my... I'm very emotional right now after reading this wonderful post from Rachel Macy Stafford from her blog www.handsfreemama.com. I was crying by the time I finished the article because it was just so touching and so true. Maybe some of you have already come across this article through a link from Facebook (like me) but if you haven't, please take time to read it (even the comments section has some great insights).

As a stay at home mom to two young kids (aged 3 and 2), I have to admit that there are times when I just lose it. One minute, my kids and I are all getting along, laughing and playing. Then suddenly, they both end up fighting over something, the snack they're eating spills everywhere on the floor, they're both crying at the top of their lungs, they don't want to listen to me, the whole house is a mess... and I just feel so out of control! And of course, even if you're the most patient person out there, there will be times when you will just snap and yell. And I admit to doing that. 

I love how this line sums up everything:

"yelling shuts down the communication; it severs the bond; it causes people to separate—instead of come closer."

source

It's become so easy for me to yell over the smallest things when I'm sleepy, hungry, or overwhelmed. Or even when my kids are asking for attention when I'm busy with something (like blogging!). And no matter how hard you try to put everything in order, there will be instances when they write on the walls, break something, try to put their fingers through the electric fan, step on the iPad, and many many more... And my initial response would be to yell stuff like "NO! WHY DID YOU DO THAT? STOP THAT! THAT'S BAD!" I see it as a way to discipline them, to prevent them from getting hurt, because I love them. 

But I have to realize that they don't know what they're doing is wrong. They're babies and these are all new to them. It's important to understand that we are there to teach our children. My job as a parent is to educate them and not get annoyed when they do something I'm sure they had no idea was wrong. By yelling at them, we instill fear in them to try new things, to explore, to be themselves. I've noticed lately that when my 3 year old daughter does something, her immediate response is to say "SORRY!" even when it isn't her fault or it was just an accident. It made me realize that maybe I've been scolding her way too much that's why it's become normal for her to apologize over everything. I definitely don't want my kids to be scared of me that is why I am thankful for this article because it has really inspired me and opened my eyes to change.

Here are some more beautiful words from the article to end this post:

"The important thing is … it’s not too late to stop yelling.

The important thing is … children forgive–especially if they see the person they love trying to change.

The important thing is … life is too short to get upset over spilled cereal and misplaced shoes.

The important thing is … no matter what happened yesterday, today is a new day.

Today we can choose a peaceful response.

And in doing so, we can teach our children that peace builds bridges—bridges that can carry us over in times of trouble."

Read the complete article The Important Thing About Yelling HERE.

One fine day

I have to admit, there are days that I just want to stay at home to watch TV, catch up on my blogging, and find time to do all my DIY projects. Of course going to the mall is another thing, I'm always game for that. :) But what I'm saying is that sometimes, I tend to forget that my kids need to experience and play in the outdoors too. I'm embarrassed to say that there are moments when I have such a hard time prying my kids away from watching cartoons or playing with the iPad. I guess turning on the TV or handing them the iPad is such a easy excuse to get a little time for yourself. But what I need to keep reminding myself is to allow them to experience the simple joys in life, just like what we had before all this technology was invented.

So one afternoon, we all trooped to the park for a little picnic and tea time. I brought Miley's teacups and saucers and that's where we drank juice and ate cookies. I swear, I think I was the one who was enjoying the most! It just brought me back to when I was a kid with me and my cousins. Back then, we loved spending time in the playground, or just laying around in the grass looking for bugs and picking flowers.

cheers!

After, it was time for some kite flying. The kids kept running around trying to get the kite up. The breeze wasn't that strong at first but after a few tries, Miley had some luck!

We were just in time for "golden hour", which is the last hour of sunlight during the day. They say this is the best time to take pictures because it produces really dramatic results. What do you think? I totally love all the shots hubby took, especially the ones below with the sunlight piercing through the trees. And I totally didn't realize it, but both Sabe and I ended up going barefoot! We took our shoes off when we were having our picnic and once we started flying the kite, I guess we just forgot to put them back on. And let me tell you, the feeling was so liberating haha!

this is my absolute favorite shot from the day :)

I swear, this was one of the best afternoons we've had. I promise myself that I will make time for more of these moments, so the kids can learn to appreciate nature and bonding with family all the more. :)

Best Starts with Dad

Growing up, my father was never around since he had to work abroad. I remember how our relationship was formed through letters and long distance phone calls (I have to say that Facetime and Skype is really such a blessing now!). I remember being so jealous of my other classmates and friends when their dads would pick them up from school or be around for family day. In my case, I got to spend time with my dad when we would visit him during the summer. 

I remember one particular time when it was my 10^th birthday and my dad was finally able to go home. He took me and my friends out to a movie and then to Glico’s after (remember that place in Glorietta? It was the coolest hangout for us kids back then! ;p). I remember being so proud and happy that my dad was finally there in the flesh.

Even though my dad wasn’t there physically most of the time, he still taught me valuable lessons in life. Like how to be a strong and independent woman. I learned to be tough at a young age because it was just me and my mom. I became an achiever in school. I strived more and was determined to succeed and make everyone, especially my dad, proud of me.

Now, having children myself, I’m so thankful that they can spend time with their dad growing up, unlike me. Like my mom, I also became a housewife so that I can be the one to raise my kids. Of course most children are really more attached to their mothers at a young age because it’s the moms, especially stay-at-home ones, who spend the most time with them. I’m sure every father has felt unappreciated and even unwanted at some point in their lives. I remember this post I saw online about how when the kids are with their moms, they ask so many questions like “Mom can I eat this?”, “Mom, can I go out?”, “Mom, can I watch this?” etc etc. But when they’re left alone with their dad, they only ask one thing – “WHERE’S MOM?” hahaha! Actually I can relate, but that doesn’t mean that a father’s role is any less important.

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again - I am so thankful to my hubby for being so encouraging and allowing me to stay at home while he works to support us. I know he, like many other fathers, has missed out on special moments and milestones. They sacrifice this in order to give their family the best life possible. But it just proves how strong they are because I’m sure any dad would gladly give anything to spend more time with his kids if he could.

That is why I find it so great that Mead Johnson Nutrition recognizes not just mothers but fathers as well in giving the best starts for their kids. Hubby has been so hands on as a father ever since and he still is until now. I know I wouldn’t have handled being a new mother as well without him being there every step of the way. But I’ll be honest. There are times that I go crazy at home with 2 rowdy kids turning the house upside down, fighting with each other, wanting my undivided attention when all I want is a minute to myself. This is when hubby steps in, taking the kids while I take a few deep breaths to calm myself down. After a while, I find them in their room, laughing and playing with their dad like nothing was wrong 10 minutes ago (I guess good cop / bad cop really does work ;p). But seriously, I think dads are there to balance out us crazy, dramatic moms! And when the kids don’t want to listen to me, I find that asking dad to talk to them sometimes works better. ;p

As our kids are growing up so quickly, I’m glad that I have their dad here to help me raise our children to be strong, well-rounded individuals. I recall this quote “Any man can be a father. It takes someone special to be a dad.” And I am lucky that the man I married has turned out to be such a loving, devoted and wonderful dad. Even though he comes home tired from work, he makes an effort to play with the kids, take them to the park, and the most important duty of all - wash their butts after they do number 2 (he really is an expert already haha!). We still have a long road ahead of us (both kids will be in school already by next year, and I don’t even want to think about the teenage years!) but I think we have a pretty good foundation which hopefully will translate well even as our kids become adults in the future. J

With Father’s Day coming up, celebrate your child's Best Starts in life with Dad with Mead Johnson Nutrition, makers of Enfakid A+ and Lactum 3+ & 6+, by sharing your best father and child photo. Like the Best Starts with Dad Facebook page, upload your photo and you can get a chance to win a MacBook Air, iPhone 5, and iPad Minis.

You can even get a FREE photo shoot for your kids with their dad (follow Best Starts with Dad for details) and use it as an entry. Visit the Shangri-La Plaza Atrium on May 18-19 and get that Best Start father and child moment captured on camera!

Below is a heartwarming video from Mead Johnson Nutrition that features REAL fathers (not actors). Watch them deliver messages of hopes and wishes for their children.

What is your Best Start with Dad?

Cheers to dads everywhere! ;p

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Safer sleep with HALO SleepSack + Mom & Me event

When I was pregnant with my first child, I loved reading and researching about motherhood and all things baby so that I would be prepared once I gave birth. One of the things I read about was SIDS or Sudden Infant Death Syndrome. I have to admit, I was really freaked out about this because apparently, SIDS claims over 8 babies a day and 2,500 lives year, making it the leading cause of death in otherwise healthy babies after one month of age.

Once Miley was born, I have to admit that I was really paranoid about SIDS so hubby and I would take turns watching her sleep just to be sure nothing bad happened to her. You know how they say you should sleep when your baby is sleeping and use that time to rest? Well, we didn't do that. ;p I swear, we were like zombies staying up all through the night just to check if she was still breathing or her blanket hadn't covered her face or something.

Well, I just wish I had discovered this product way back then - The HALO SleepSack®!

The HALO SleepSack is a wearable blanket that eliminates the risk of a baby getting entangled with clothing and loose bedding during sleep. It is worn over pajamas or a t-shirt in place of loose blankets that can easily be kicked off, thus ensuring a cozy warm and sounder sleep. HALO provides a practical alternative to loose bedding like quilts and bumpers, which are not only unsafe for babies, but expensive and difficult to clean. More importantly, it enables safer and sounder sleep, which is a pre-requisite for growth, learning, and brain development. With the SleepSack, baby sleeps better, so everybody sleeps better too! ;p

HALO is the only product to carry the seals of First Candle/SIDS Alliance and the Canadian Foundation
for the Study of Infant Deaths (CFSID)

What I also love is the HALO SleepSack Swaddle. Again, swaddling was one of the challenges we faced as new parents. When we were in the hospital, the nurses were so great at swaddling Miley and when they taught us how, it seemed so easy. But when we got home, she would always manage to kick her way out if it! No joke, we even watched Youtube videos of how to do a perfect swaddle haha! 

What's so great about the HALO SleepSack Swaddle is that it consists of an easy to use swaddle wrap. The adjustable design allows baby to sleep with arms in or out which provides easy transition for baby to the wearable blanket when it is time to stop swaddling. Another plus is it allows baby free movement of his lower body even with wrapped. The HALO SleepSack Swaddle helps soothe newborns, allowing them to sleep longer and more soundly by snugly and safely swaddling them.

HALO products can be purchased online at www.halophilippines.com and soon at leading department stores and specialty retailers. You can also check their Facebook page for news and updates. You can also visit HALO Philippines at Mom & Me on May 25 and 26 (from 10 a.m. to 8 p.m.) at Rockwell Tent, Makati. 

The Mom & Me event aims to foster the relationship of moms and kids through activities that both can do together. Plus, top mom and kids brands will be showcasing their wares from clothes, shoes, toys, home décor and more! 

Entrance passes to this fun-filled weekend are at P499, good for 1 mom/dad and 1 child; additional participants at P250. Those who prefer access to only the booth activities such as the family portrait area, beauty booth, play area, and shopping area can get passes for P199. For ticket inquiries, contact the Mom & Me organizers at tel. no. 542-1480 / Globe: 0915-8398582/ Smart: 0947-6288700 / Sun: 0922-8924918 / Email: mommyandmePH@gmail.com. Tickets can also be purchased from www.halophilippines.com.

Can't wait to see you all there! :)

Parenting 101 Seminar

I saw this on Facebook and decided to share it here for those who are interested. =)

Inviting parents and even friends who are aspiring to be one. If you are a teacher, loves kids or part of a volunteer group for kids, this can help you as well. 

How much should a Stay-at-Home Mom make?

I came across this article that computed the salary of a stay-at-home mom. How I wish we could all get paid for doing what they say is one of the toughest (and thankless) jobs in the world! =)

Here’s a fun infographic that details just what a mom can expect to be paid for her work. Can you believe that we would earn almost twice as much as a working mom and work more than double the hours? WOW!

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How I wish this were true! Heck, I'd even settle for minimum wage! ;p